b++ First child next sibling
In plain English:
our first boy has a newborn brother. Luka is the older brother of Tin.
Today, Tin is 3 days old.
The whole family is super-euphoric. We all know what to do.
We named Tin after Tin Ujević, the famous Croatian poet. When I was a high-school graduate, I took classes on Croatian poetry and choose Tin Ujević’s opus as a theme for my final exam. Now you know.
The Christian name of Tin Ujević was Augustin (or Augustine) after St. Augustine. And one of St. Augustine’s influential quotes particularly matches certain modern pedagogy rule:
Cum dilectione hominum et odio vitiorum
(Love the sinner and hate the sin)
Don’t judge the person, judge the act.
Instead of
— “You are bad (correct yourself)”
we should communicate
— “That behavior was bad (I love you, but please don’t do that again)”
.
Move focus from the child itself to her undesired behavior. This way, the kid is not offended, and she has a chance to re-think her acts.
I hope I’ll remember this next time they cross my boundaries. Kids are adorable.
001—2008.07.18.07:55
Čestitam!
002—2008.07.18.08:16
Congratz!!!1
003—2008.07.18.08:40
Congratulations, Marko! :)
004—2008.07.18.08:41
Congratz!!! I knew it by the intro picture that something like this happened … :-)
005—2008.07.18.09:55
Congratulations!!! :D
006—2008.07.18.10:47
Congratz.. :)
007—2008.07.18.11:44
Gratz Maratz ! I really love to hear good news like this. Enjoy with your family
008—2008.07.18.11:48
Re. St. Augustine: So that’s something like “Don’t hate the player, hate the game” kind of thing, huh? ;)
Congratulations once more, man, cheers!
009—2008.07.18.13:32
Congratulations, I hope you have at least 4 more children :) It’s nice how you emphasized that he was named after Tin Ujevic (so that nobody thinks it was after Tin Kadoic :)))
010—2008.07.18.17:53
That’s really sweet! Congratulations to your family!!
011—2008.07.18.17:55
Congratulations!!
I gotta get me one of those :)
012—2008.07.18.18:04
Čestitam majstore! Svaka čast. Sad brzo po jednu curicu ;-)
013—2008.07.18.18:59
Congratulations, Marko!
014—2008.07.18.19:48
Once again, all the best wishes. Especially quiet nights. :)
015—2008.07.19.00:41
Congratulations to yours extended family!
15th of July was our birth date, but Karlo can’t wait anymore and came 6 days earlier. ;)
Cheers!
016—2008.07.19.15:28
Wellcome to new baby! Tin has a beautiful name.
Have you read Jesper Juul’s Competent Child, yet?
017—2008.07.19.20:57
@Karmen: Of course, and thanks for the reminder. I also read Here I am! Who are you? about proximity, respect and boundaries between adults and children.
Hence the my boundaries in the post above :)
The complete bibliography: http://www.jesperjuul.com/bibliografi_dk.asp
018—2008.07.20.03:01
Juul was a real discovery for me ;) i see im not alone
019—2008.07.20.08:28
All books I’ve read from Juul at the beginning were in Croatian language. For me “Znati reći ‘ne’ mirne savjesti” was the real discovery.
Your firstborn has same name as mine :-)
020—2008.07.21.13:21
Čestitam na drugom dečku. Očito si nosio čizme, ja nisam slušao taj savjet pa sad imam dvije cure. A savjet sv. Augustina mi treba na dnevnoj bazi sa mojom starijom koja svoju dvomjesečnu seku počinje doživljavati kao konkurenciju.
021—2008.07.21.14:26
Čestitke!!
022—2008.07.21.15:17
Congrats!
023—2008.07.21.17:04
this.parent.congrats()
024—2008.07.22.16:47
“First child next sibling”…. LOL…
cestitam i zivjeli
025—2008.07.27.13:35
Enjoy tough first months taking care of two kids and all the sweet noise coming from the bedroom all day and night. At the end, You’ll have two (or more) grown up men to be proud of. (I will have to woman to be proud of one day :) )
026—2008.08.18.15:40
A bit late but still, CONGRATULATIONS!